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Be a good parent by Akhnaton-II Be a good parent by Akhnaton-II

Now in Russia there is a shitstorm uprising. Suddenly a lot of stories appeared, where kids are talked into suicide by some evil forces via the Internet. Fake stories, of course, Lumley-style penny dreadfuls the Government needs in order to low the level of privacy, so that it would be simpler to spy after dissidents.

But it is not the Government that makes me especially angry, it's the people.


They took it absolutely seriously, and now some are prohibiting their kids to use the Internet, shutting down the last source of information.

Let me tell you why children commit suicide.


They do it out of desperation, inability to understand that there's nothing wrong with them, that their flaws and mistakes aren't in the spotlight, that everybody around them is suffering from the same problems. They do it because they do not have enough information about life and have to guess themselves, and sometimes living like a lone explorer is just too much, and something breaks.

So talk to your kids, make friends with them, don't try to boss and regulate them. Explain them things, no matter how "adult" the topic seems, and then let them go and study the world with solid theoretical basis. Don't regulate what they do in the Internet, things like porn, drugs, or suicide won't harm mental development of a person who was already instructed about them. When you keep your child away from this information it's not "protection", it harms your child, because he/she feels that something is going on but has neither knowledge nor control, and it destroys self-esteem completely.



You don't believe me? 
Well, this is how my parents bred me, and I am still alive. Our life conditions might have been tougher than somebody's, but thoughts about suicide never crossed my mind, because I knew that the world is worth living in.
At the age of 16 I debunked two grown-up Jehovah's witnesses. Just think about it, when other children aren't even supposed to question their parents' beliefs (well, they do question, but nobody takes them seriously) I was already able to win in an intellectual conversation.


For my ability to live I am grateful to my mom and dad. I will be the same type of a parent when I find the right partner, and my kids will walk into this word with bravery.

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WWehImEridanAmpora Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
I live with Foster Parents because my Old Parents tried to Sentence me to Death for being Lesbian, I had a knife held up to my throat and I was tied while sitting down on a chair. Yep that's probably Mental I know...

After that I wanted to kill myself...
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kirbyfan2377 Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
My mom and dad won't let me go to a psychiatrist to diagnose me with Gender dysphoria and depression, they just try to preach the bible to me.
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yehudihasidi Featured By Owner Edited Mar 18, 2017  New Deviant Professional Digital Artist
message to all the men around the world.

if you aren't going to be a good parent, then just don't fuck your wife..
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PepperedSoda Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
there are no words that can describe how much i HATE this.
you must be the stupidest son of a bitch on the planet to prohibit your children from ANYTHING.
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Felix-Sebastian Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2017
I feel that banning them from using the internet will come off as a punishment for the child and they will not tell their parents if they are being harassed online in fear of that punishment. It is just going to make it worse. 
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PepperedSoda Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ITS YOU
I HAVE FFOUND YOU
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Felix-Sebastian Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2017
YAY YOU HAVE FOUND ME!
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iMiniteLakes Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2016  Student Digital Artist
my mom is a liar and my dad wants me dead. yaaaaaaay.
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odetobirds Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2016
👍
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GoldenSonicWolfy Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
this happened to me [Not caring part]
but for some reason i didn't care?!?
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:iconskepticalcynical:
Everyone in this comment section have parents that are either abusive, neglectful or overprotective bigots.

And I'm mad that my parents take my electronics away whenever an f-bomb slips out.

I should start appreciating life more.
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Edithel Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2017
Me too
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glovannas Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2016  Student Digital Artist
:thumbsup:
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iiFanGirlOfFhaf Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Well my mom dont do a good job of talking to me then.
Everyone else in my family does.
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Anything4Dinner Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2016
Trolls don't ruin the internet, the people who take them seriously do.
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pocketsizedoreo Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2017  Student Photographer
Some trolls and jokes are hard to spot and might need the original poster to say "It's a joke", but only after being confronted.
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lurking-seadweller Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I hate it when parents just take everything away from their children instead of actually talking to them.
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ChippingChart66 Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2017
IKR? It's like they're afraid that lecturing kids might bore them or something! Ugh...now I know what that "wah wah wah" sound in the Peanuts cartoons was for!
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Plippy-Kitty Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
When/If I have kids, if they ever develop depression, anxiety, or anything like that no way in hell would I just watch them fall to pieces and take their own life. 
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duffman10 Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This is fucking disgusting. Depression is not the result of bad parenting. It is the result of something parents can't control. Depression is the machination of many things, not bad fucking parenting. It's stupid to blame someone else for their depression. There have been points in my life where I have felt like shit and most of it has to do with love. Not my parents. I'm not an expert on this, but I know enough to know this is wrong.
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Azrael-Legna Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2016
Shit parenting can lead to the kids having depression. If parents would do something about their kids getting bullied, then their kid wouldn't get depressed, or possible kill themselves or shoot up the school.
Parents think that they're too good and above being responsible for the human being that THEY decided to have, and think that they should get their asses kissed and licked just for having kids.
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FelisLupus Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Actually it can be a factor. My mom has been extremely rude to me lately by yelling at me, being a complete asshole to the cat that actually liked me, and being to lazy to do anything with her life. My dad has to work almost ALL the time because she doesn't "want" to get a job (I know some of it is due to mental illness but still, I have Asperger's and want to become an artist.) Due to being isolated so much, I decided to seek the internet as a way to escape.

But you do have a point, I can't really blame her for EVERYTHING. The other half is probably caused by peers treating me like shit and the adults who tell me to suck it up instead of dealing with the fucking issue.

This is almost the exact reason why my anxiety issues keep getting worse and worse over time. However, if you think about it, I'm not really "blaming" anyone here.

I'm upset about the way that these people treat me, which is why I don't WANT to be around them. Sadly enough, I can't complain because some of the adults are pretty kind to me. (Can't be +LGBT or you'll get disowned by them)
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WhimsicalNugget Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2016   Digital Artist
I know right most of my depression and anxiety is caused by me and it honestly annoys me how people put their problems on others. Your parents had to do a hell of an amazing job raising you and if they didn't you wouldn't be here today. 
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AVOlD Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Mental illness is also why. My parents love and value me but I'm still, unfortunately, suicidal. But if parents are telling their child shit like about they're so "lazy" or "weak" or even worse you're setting them up for these problems.
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Marc2Shuman Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Student Writer
Mental illness is also a huge factor to consider,if mental illness goes untreated it can become worse,but yes i agree with what you are trying to state.
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
My mom always tells me "I am your mom, not your friend. I get to control your life until you're 18"
What.
The.
Fuck.
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KittyPawArt Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2017  Student Traditional Artist
go up to her and say "piss off mom, you sack of shit"

maybe that'll get her fucked up attitude in line
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
If I did that I'd be dead where I stand
I don't have a mom who can take that and won't fucking beat my ass
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woIfdogs Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
you should get your mom and say "hey mom, look what people are saying about you"
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, she did see them. She now uses that as blackmail to get me to do what she wants.
I technically had to quit DA but I still go on in secret.
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woIfdogs Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
wow what a bitch
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
She actually makes me suicidal.
I had a brush with Anorexia because she used to tell me to "stop eating like you do" even though I was eating normally.
Parents really do affect their children and no amount of self awareness of that can save the child.
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TheGreenOreo Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2016  Student General Artist
Thats SICK.
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FelisLupus Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
What the hell man
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I dunno man
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Aegris Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2016  Student Writer
Actually, there are a million reasons why a child might commit suicide. Children with good, loving parents do it too.
It's dangerous to simplify suicidal ideation like this.
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Edited Sep 5, 2016  Student Digital Artist
don't forget social isolation by blocking off the internet can be one of the things that make kids want to do this.

kids can sometimes feel like they have no real friends to talk to, and feel like all the people they want to make friends with in reality would laugh and mock them for stupid reasons, but those reasons can hit hard. they start to build friendships - even relationships - with people online, and these friends are the foundations for a person who would otherwise break apart. and if you take away the accessibility to talk to these people, you can destroy a kid.

how do i know this? because it happened to me, too. but when i found another way to communicate, i rebuilt those broken towers and i managed to piece my broken self back together.

parents need to learn things like this, otherwise the world will be filled with even more hopeless kids, and those kids eventually lost through this final act.

tl;dr: don't take away internet from kids who might be lost without it.
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MlXJ3STlC Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2016

omf I wish there was a way to like comments--
I frisking love you for this <3

I'm tired of my parents telling me 'BUT KID, ALL OF THE PEEPLE OUT TERE R PEDOS AND LIARS!!!111!1!'
that's a lie tbh
all of my friends here are actually way better than my jerky classmates
my parents said internet can make me anti-social, when actually a lover of mine from the internet made me more social than ever, social enough to get even irl friends

so internet friends help you as much as irl friends.
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2016  Student Digital Artist
a-fucking-MEN to your comment like holy shit are you the lord because you're my savior
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FelisLupus Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Amen to that, without the internet, I'd probably be either dead or in really bad shape by now
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2016  Student Digital Artist
same.
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
My mom is doing that to me. She blocked social media on our computer. I have to go on DA through the library computer now. 
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Student Digital Artist
oh god that must suck ;-;
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
It does. I want to die rn. I told her I was depressed and she's like "It's just hormones"
Yes, because the fact that I rarely want to do anything is hormones.
The fact that I cry so much is just hormones.
The fact that I show many symptoms of depression.
Mhm make perfect sense
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Chozen-One Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2016
Not to be a doctor or anything, but that can actually be because of hormones. Teenage years can go as far as feeling suicidal, because of all the new feelings- I don't think that's a reason for your mom to ignore it, though, because that can lead it to turn into depression (Unless it is depression, I am no doctor)

The new feelings, the thoughts of growing up, all that, it can lead to something that feels a lot like depression, and that IS a fact.
But that doesn't mean it's alright for your mom to make you feel worse
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2016  Student Digital Artist
i honestly feel depressed on an everyday basis and when i try to talk to people about it they just say "you're just growing up sweaty :))) you'll get over it!!! ^w^"
o ya of COURSE my horrible feeling of being unable to help others or do anything or actually go and do something with my life is "just from hormones!!!1!" : )))))
i wanna punch the shit out of people who say bullshit like that
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I have such awful problems with stress, anger, and/or frustration.
I destroy stuff when I'm triggered by something that makes me angry or frustrated.
I cry and become sick when I'm stressed or frustrated.
I hate myself.
I know exactly how you feel.
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DayGlorii Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016  Student Digital Artist
i have a LOT of anger problems growing up.
i used to punch, kick, and throw tantrums on the floor at pretty much every mean thing someone's said to me.
i had to go to a therapist when i was younger because i was so violent. i also got suspended one time.
nowadays, i'm more tame, but i will be bitter and hurl insults and curses at you if you say shit about me. i also gave my brother a bloody nose on accident. emphasis on "on accident".
sometimes i'm scared of what i'm capable of, and it makes me hate myself even more.
i also break down a lot, so :'))
thanks for understanding, i hope things get better :hug:
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FelisLupus Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I used to get into fist fights when my sister's kids kept stealing my shit, but now I don't have the confidence to even confront them let alone get the object back.

My mom screams at me and tells me to stop crying over a piece of plastic.

It's not like that thing has any value to me whatsoever, especially if I did something to it to make it special to me.
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SeaPaintProductions Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
man, I know how that feels.
I punched a 9 year old in the face.
He didn't actually bleed, but I didn't even care.
I just walked out the house.
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