Now in Russia there is a shitstorm uprising. Suddenly a lot of stories appeared, where kids are talked into suicide by some evil forces via the Internet. Fake stories, of course, Lumley-style penny dreadfuls the Government needs in order to low the level of privacy, so that it would be simpler to spy after dissidents.
But it is not the Government that makes me especially angry, it's the people.
They took it absolutely seriously, and now some are prohibiting their kids to use the Internet, shutting down the last source of information.
Let me tell you why children commit suicide.
They do it out of desperation, inability to understand that there's nothing wrong with them, that their flaws and mistakes aren't in the spotlight, that everybody around them is suffering from the same problems. They do it because they do not have enough information about life and have to guess themselves, and sometimes living like a lone explorer is just too much, and something breaks.
So talk to your kids, make friends with them, don't try to boss and regulate them. Explain them things, no matter how "adult" the topic seems, and then let them go and study the world with solid theoretical basis. Don't regulate what they do in the Internet, things like porn, drugs, or suicide won't harm mental development of a person who was already instructed about them. When you keep your child away from this information it's not "protection", it harms your child, because he/she feels that something is going on but has neither knowledge nor control, and it destroys self-esteem completely.
You don't believe me?
Well, this is how my parents bred me, and I am still alive. Our life conditions might have been tougher than somebody's, but thoughts about suicide never crossed my mind, because I knew that the world is worth living in.
At the age of 16 I debunked two grown-up Jehovah's witnesses. Just think about it, when other children aren't even supposed to question their parents' beliefs (well, they do question, but nobody takes them seriously) I was already able to win in an intellectual conversation.
For my ability to live I am grateful to my mom and dad. I will be the same type of a parent when I find the right partner, and my kids will walk into this word with bravery.
if you aren't going to be a good parent, then just don't fuck your wife..
you must be the stupidest son of a bitch on the planet to prohibit your children from ANYTHING.
but for some reason i didn't care?!?
And I'm mad that my parents take my electronics away whenever an f-bomb slips out.
I should start appreciating life more.
Everyone else in my family does.
Parents think that they're too good and above being responsible for the human being that THEY decided to have, and think that they should get their asses kissed and licked just for having kids.
But you do have a point, I can't really blame her for EVERYTHING. The other half is probably caused by peers treating me like shit and the adults who tell me to suck it up instead of dealing with the fucking issue.
This is almost the exact reason why my anxiety issues keep getting worse and worse over time. However, if you think about it, I'm not really "blaming" anyone here.
I'm upset about the way that these people treat me, which is why I don't WANT to be around them. Sadly enough, I can't complain because some of the adults are pretty kind to me. (Can't be +LGBT or you'll get disowned by them)
I technically had to quit DA but I still go on in secret.
It's dangerous to simplify suicidal ideation like this.
kids can sometimes feel like they have no real friends to talk to, and feel like all the people they want to make friends with in reality would laugh and mock them for stupid reasons, but those reasons can hit hard. they start to build friendships - even relationships - with people online, and these friends are the foundations for a person who would otherwise break apart. and if you take away the accessibility to talk to these people, you can destroy a kid.
how do i know this? because it happened to me, too. but when i found another way to communicate, i rebuilt those broken towers and i managed to piece my broken self back together.
parents need to learn things like this, otherwise the world will be filled with even more hopeless kids, and those kids eventually lost through this final act.
tl;dr: don't take away internet from kids who might be lost without it.
omf I wish there was a way to like comments--
I frisking love you for this <3
I'm tired of my parents telling me 'BUT KID, ALL OF THE PEEPLE OUT TERE R PEDOS AND LIARS!!!111!1!'
that's a lie tbh
all of my friends here are actually way better than my jerky classmates
my parents said internet can make me anti-social, when actually a lover of mine from the internet made me more social than ever, social enough to get even irl friends
so internet friends help you as much as irl friends.
Yes, because the fact that I rarely want to do anything is hormones.
The fact that I cry so much is just hormones.
The fact that I show many symptoms of depression.
Mhm make perfect sense
The new feelings, the thoughts of growing up, all that, it can lead to something that feels a lot like depression, and that IS a fact.
But that doesn't mean it's alright for your mom to make you feel worse
o ya of COURSE my horrible feeling of being unable to help others or do anything or actually go and do something with my life is "just from hormones!!!1!" : )))))
i wanna punch the shit out of people who say bullshit like that
I destroy stuff when I'm triggered by something that makes me angry or frustrated.
I cry and become sick when I'm stressed or frustrated.
I hate myself.
I know exactly how you feel.
i used to punch, kick, and throw tantrums on the floor at pretty much every mean thing someone's said to me.
i had to go to a therapist when i was younger because i was so violent. i also got suspended one time.
nowadays, i'm more tame, but i will be bitter and hurl insults and curses at you if you say shit about me. i also gave my brother a bloody nose on accident. emphasis on "on accident".
sometimes i'm scared of what i'm capable of, and it makes me hate myself even more.
i also break down a lot, so :'))
thanks for understanding, i hope things get better
My mom screams at me and tells me to stop crying over a piece of plastic.
It's not like that thing has any value to me whatsoever, especially if I did something to it to make it special to me.
I punched a 9 year old in the face.
He didn't actually bleed, but I didn't even care.
I just walked out the house.
still, though, this is a great message, and as someone with parents who aren't always good, i thank you.